Archive for April, 2008

Love Still Counts

It is common to have an argument with one’s spouse, especially on little things. Little things may then become big. And big things become bigger issues. Because we are human, we tend to go overboard in arguments. Sometimes, we hurt our spouses badly by saying things that we are not supposed to say. Sometimes, we may utter words unintentionally – but in the end, we break their hearts. The worst part about all this is that, when you say something, it is OUT there already. You cannot take it back. Those words may hurt you so badly that you will remember forever.  


But, where do we go after that? Do we say sorry and forget things? Forget the argument that you just had? In your next unplanned argument, would you start reminding your spouse that he or she had hurt you with those words before? Or do you work so hard to make things work in your marriage that you sacrifice your own happiness? And then you think to yourself, when is all this ever going to end?


I found a helpful article from the Young Muslims of Australia on Adab within the Muslim Family. It outlines six tips discussions and agreements:  


1.       Begin with the intention to resolve the issue.

2.       Remember that it takes two to quarrel.

3.       Both spouses should not be angry at the same time.

4.       Never yell at each other unless the house is on fire.

5.       Never go to sleep with an argument unsettled.

6.       If one spouse needs to win, let it be your mate.


And the most important thing to remember when arguing, is it worth it? Is it worth the hurt, the tears, the pain?


Life is about sacrifices. Being married is to love, and to give. Because, loving is about giving. And in giving, how we give is more important than how much we give. And love still counts…. 


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The Kuala Lumpur International Book Fair 2008 was held last week.


I was in Kuala Lumpur for a meeting on Friday, and I managed to squeeze in two hours to visit the fair. My kids had to ‘ponteng’ tadika because I wanted to bring them along with me. Naughty mom!


Anyway, I bought the following books on Rasulullah and his Sahabah which I had been eyeing for some time:



These are the novels:




And these are the motivational and self-help books:




I also bought Nik Abdul Aziz Nik Mat Unplugged 1 – which contains some speeches and writeups by my beloved Tok Guru.


I hope these books will last me until 2009 KLIBF. I still have a few more books that I had purchased earlier that I need to read!!!


Happy reading to me!

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This was the first time in the history of Perak that our stadium was filled up with THAT many people (photo courtesy of utusan.net). Some estimated the number to be 50,000 and some estimated 70,000. You be your own judge!

Anyway, proud to say that I was part of that history. Although I managed to listen to only Dr Hasan Ali and YB Nga Kor Ming, it was a lifetime experience. The earlier plan was that the kids would stay with mom. It was a bit too risky to bring them, considering the number of people that would attend the session. But mom wasn’t too well that night, so we decided not to go and instead bring the kids for a ride around the stadium, just to get a feel of the ‘heat’. Alhamdulillah, Allah is great. We found a parking space, just right in front of one of the doors. We made a quick decision to stop, jumped out of the car, and went straight into the stadium.

It was around 9.00 p.m. when we made our way into the stadium. At that time, the seats and the field were half-filled. I was quite frustrated then, because I thought that at least the seats would be filled-up. But then, over the 2 hours while I was there, more people kept walking in. And what I thought was the most interesting thing was to see Chinese and Indians filling up the stadium as well! Malaysians from all walks of life!!! In fact, we were sitting next to a Chinese couple who were discussing on the speeches with another Malay couple. This is the end of racial politics created by Barisan Nasional!!

Anyway, we had to leave at 11.00 because the kids were getting restless. I think they got tired of screaming, because everytime my husband and I screamed, they followed. It was funny. They kept asking us, “mom, dad, why are you screaming?” and my husband would say, “just scream!”.

When I saw the photo posted by utusan.net, I was stunned. Masya Allah!

Yes, it is time for change!





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I have always been a PAS supporter, but I have never known Ir. Nizar personally. But ever since he was appointed the Menteri Besar of Perak Darul Ridzuan, I have often heard of so many good stories about him (e.g. he is intelligent, he can speak Mandarin etc).

Last night, I had the chance to hear him talk. Not in person, but I watched a VCD that was passed to me by my dad’s good friend. (Thank you Tok Megat!) It was a session between him and the leaders of the kampungs (JKKK) in Perak which was held at SUK.

Masya Allah! I was stunned!

He is just AMAZING. He is extremely articulate, and extremely convincing. Most impressive is the way he relates every single issue that he mentions to a particular verse in the Quran. He talked about how we should accept the taqdir of Allah, how Allah created us so that we can get to know each other (taaruf), about being amanah, about how iman and jihad go hand-in-hand.

I am thankful that Allah has given us a leader that can lead the Muslims and non-Muslims – and I pray that Allah gives him the strength to fulfill his duties. I am so proud to be in Perak!

YB Ir Nizar, I salute you!

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Kuala Terengganu is a very peaceful city. I was there just last week for four days on business, and without my kids or husband! Nevertheless, staying at Primula Parkroyal was just heavenly. I could see the South China Sea from my hotel bedroom window. It was just so calming, so serene. The only most frustrating thing for me was that I left my camera behind! Ouch! I had to make do with my handphone camera, which didn’t turn out so bad. Alhamdulillah. But I really hope to go back there one day. 

The food…. Fuh! Unbelievable! The keropok lekor that we had at Teluk Ketapang made me go crazy!!!! 

I managed to visit the extremely-expensive-but-beautiful-and-controversial Crystal Mosque on one of the evenings after work, and did my Zuhur-Asr prayer there. It wasn’t 100% complete so I couldn’t actually enter the site where they built the replicas of world’s famous mosques. I could only view them from afar – they are quite impressive actually.  Regardless, I still like the ‘old and traditional’ Floating Mosque (Masjid Terapung). The feeling was just different. Just watching the Floating Mosque brought tears to my eyes. I didn’t feel that way when I was in the Crystal Mosque though. I wish I could explain why… 

Anyway, I ‘stumbled’ upon the newly-appointed MB of Trengganu who was also staying at the same hotel. He was on the way to the airport to receive the Tuanku who came down from KL. He looked quite calm on the outside, but Allah knows what is in his heart! If I were him, I don’t think I can trust the 22 elected Wakil Rakyats whom were so against his appointment in the first place. Funny how people can change within a few days. Really. One minute you are saying, no, I will not agree and I will resign from my post if you select him. But after another minute, yes, I agree that you appoint him. Can one of you really prove your stand, please?

Things in the 5 states are getting better. Our leaders just today, announced the formation of a formal alliance, most likely to be named Pakatan Rakyat. Cool, huh? I am sure they will work hand-in-hand for a better Malaysia. The combination of Tuan Guru Haji Hadi, Anwar Ibrahim and Lim Kit Siang is just perfect. And add Kak Wan Azizah to the team – more perfect than perfect! Good Luck Barisan Nasional – I am sure you will have a tough time in the Parliament!

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