Archive for December, 2009

Negativity is something I do not appreciate, and it is definitely not the feeling that I look forward to.


Sometimes, the vibes seem to be so strong that it makes me miserable and depressed for a few hours, or maybe even days.


I encountered this some few weeks back, after I had a discussion with two colleagues, on separate occasions. Despite that I empathize with the situation that they are in and as much as I try to understand their displeasure and frustration, that negativity affected me terribly.


Not everyone is happy with what they are doing or how they are treated in an organization but to me, that is absolutely normal. You just cannot please everyone. I am sure that they have tried to take into consideration each employee’s requirements but when you have a huge workforce, it is just impossible to make everyone happy.


And I will always remember this conversation that I had with ‘someone’ in the organization. He said to me, yes, it is okay to criticize your organization because one can never be fully satisfied, but don’t overdo it – and this is simply because that is where you earn your living – and you need to make sure that it is ‘halal’!


Anyway, aren’t we all responsible for our own happiness?


I once read this quote by an anonymous author, “People deal too much with the negative, with what is wrong. Why not try and see positive things, to just touch those things and make them bloom?”


But I cannot deny that I used to be quite negative sometime back, but I made a vow to improve. That is why, I try, as much as possible, to avoid meeting with negative people. When I get depressed, I force myself to act positive, think and nurture positive thoughts and pray that the bad vibes go away. I sincerely pray that my two friends will develop more positive feelings in life.


And I will always try to remember what Allah said in the Holy Quran, Surah Al Ra’d verse 11, that “…Indeed, Allah will not change the condition of a people until they change what is in themselves…”


May we become successful khalifah in this world, which in turn will bring us everlasting success in the hereafter.


Happy 2010!


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It was the Wedding of The Year for friends who know them. 


For the newlyweds, it was a commitment to love and to cherish, for as long as they shall live… and the beginning of a beautiful life together. 


My dear friends, Hazrin and Suhana finally tie the knot on 24th December 2009. 


Allah has described the marital relationship in Surah Al Baqarah verse 187 that “They are your garments and you are their garments”… and this is to me, one of the most eloquent parable given by AlMighty.  

So, congratulations, and may you have a beautiful life together, sehingga ke syurga, insya Allah.

 After the akad, reception at Impiana Ipoh and at the groom’s place in Teluk Intan

The perfect couple!  

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Hiring a Maid

We have finally decided to hire an Indonesian maid.


It was one of the biggest decisions that I had to make, considering the so many unfavorable stories about foreign workers in this country plus my own not-so-pleasant experience with the earlier maid (the one and only I have ever had).


My justifications are these: the PhD load is getting heavier, my kids will start schooling in two weeks time and my office workload seems to be increasing by the day. My parents are getting older and they are not as strong as they were 5 years ago, and it always makes me feel guilty when I think about how much I depend on my parents. Plus, I just cannot handle the household chores anymore. My husband used to be of great help, but his office workload is really bad now plus the 12-hour shift for six days, it is just unfair for me to ask him to help out.


I did think of hiring a weekend maid who comes in on Saturdays to iron the clothes and clean the house. But then again, I still have to perform majority of the housework. Plus, rather than pay a smaller amount of money but get only 20% of the work done, we have decided that we’d rather pay more and get the house in order.


 I hope we have made the right decision.

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I hope it is not too late to wish everyone Salam Ma’al Hijrah 1431.


I came across this beautiful hadeeth today, which reminds me that every day, I get closer to meeting Him and being judged by Him at Mahsyar:


Abu Barzah al-Aslami radi Allahu anhu reported that Allah’s Messenger sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam said, “The two feet of the servant will not cease (from standing before Allah) on the Day of Judgment until he is asked about four things: on his life and how he spent it; on his knowledge and what he did with it; on his wealth and where he earned it and how he spent it; and on his body and in what way he utilized it.” [Saheeh, reported by At-Tirmidhi]


Wishing you 12 months of taufiq, 52 weeks of hidayah, 365 days of barakah, 8760 hours of patience, 525600 minutes of zuhud and 315,360,000 seconds of redha!


To my dear friends, Yasmin and Rozlinda, whose mothers coincidentally returned to the Creator on the same day last week, stay strong and I pray that their souls be blessed and placed among the pious.

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Doha, Qatar

I spent five days in Doha, Qatar last week on an official business trip.


I haven’t been to Doha before, but I find some similarities between Doha and Dubai. Doha, despite being a much smaller city compared to Dubai is developing rapidly… thanks to the oil and gas industry. There were so many new high-rise buildings along the coast, that when you stand on one side of the city, you could see all these developments quite clearly. It was quite a sight, actually. Cantik.




And Doha is also a very clean city… maybe because of the small population, and because the government has lots of money to spend in order to keep the city clean.   


There is also an Islamic Arts Museum in Doha along the bay, which houses different types of artistic items originating from Muslims all over the world. The materials on display were quite fascinating, and some of these dated centuries ago, maybe as early as the 8th century.    




There are also many Malaysians working in Doha, especially in the oil and gas industry. One of my friends, a young couple with four kids, have been living in Doha for the past 4 years and they simply love the place. The pay and the benefits are higher compared to what they get in Malaysia… almost triple, so I guess it is worth it.


However, everything in Doha seems to be expensive. For example, a plate of Nasi Beriyani would cost you about 40 Qatari Riyals (by the way, the exchange rate is one to one with Malaysian Ringgit; i.e. 1QAR = 1MYR), a taxi ride would not be less than 40 QAR for a 10-minute ride (simply because the hotel would not allow you to take the normal metered taxis which would be much cheaper). And the hotels… the rates are unbelievable! The event was held in Sheraton, which averaged QAR 1400 per night, so we had to settle for another hotel… a much cheaper hotel for around QAR 640 which is a distance away from Sheraton. Regardless of the lesser price, the hotel was superb and quite close to the Souks (souk = market).


The souks were also quite nice. But of course, the items sold were expensive. I like to give out fridge magnets as souvenirs for my friends, but even that costs QAR5 each – and the shops, they won’t entertain your bargains!


All in all, it was an interesting trip – except for the fact that on the flight to Doha on Qatar Airways, I had to sit next to a guy who got drunk from drinking too much beer! Seriously, when are the airlines going to ban alcohol on board? It was quite an unpleasant experience!

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Politics at its worst

The recent controversies surrounding the Mursyidul Am and his family do not seem to have died down.


I tried, as much as possible, to stop reading the newspapers especially Utusan and Berita Harian, but the headlines sometimes are just so extremely glaring that you cannot help noticing them. So, I had to force myself to read what Nik Abduh, Nik Amalina, Datuk Husam and a few others wrote about the entire fiasco, and I also forced myself to read what Kickdefella (I think he is one creative dude!) had to say about the whole thing.


Forced to read?


Well, Tok Guru is someone I admire, I respect and I look up to. I would hate reading negative things about him. Well, it is not as if no one has cursed him, or ridiculed him… UMNO hates him and will always make fun of him. But I just get so emotional when the newspapers try so hard to make him look like the devil instead of someone else. (On another note, I find it quite funny how Tok Guru’s doa became a big issue. One of my friends made a remark, “I thought UMNO has always said that Tok Guru is a liar, and is not fit to be called an ulama… so why worry about his doa? Are they scared that his doa will be answered by Allah?”)


Anyway, back to the issue at question. Despite of the fact that I am a strong supporter of Nik Aziz, I still have some comments to make about the whole thing.


Firstly, Tok Guru Nik Aziz is not perfect. He is not an angel, neither is he a Prophet. The Mursyidul Am of PAS is just another human being. And humans make mistakes, no doubt about that. Even the most pious ulama makes mistakes. And Nik Aziz is also bound to make mistakes.


Secondly, regardless of how professional Ariffahmi is, I still think that the appointment is not right. I strongly believe that as the Mursyidul Am of PAS should have anticipated that his enemies would seize any opportunity to find faults in him. Appointing his son-in-law to that hot seat is just unbecoming. However, I understand that he must have had his own reasons for doing so, and I am sure that he had done his istikharah… and I know he must have thought about it thoroughly. Regardless, I still think that the question of whether or not he should appoint Ariffahmi, should not have crossed his mind in the first place.


But Ariffahmi held the position for quite some time and now he wants to resign. I hope he does it quickly. If his appointment was a mistake in the first place, this is the time to swallow his pride, admit the mistake, correct it and get on with life. If it was not a mistake, do something about it i.e. resign and get on with other more important agenda.


And of course, the UMNO goons are cheering and laughing about the whole thing.


And I hate that. And you know what else? I think that UMNO is trying so hard to get rid of Nik Aziz because they believe that if Nik Aziz is not there anymore, Pakatan Rakyat would be in deep trouble and they can win back Kelantan in the next GE.



I can only pray that the support for Pakatan Rakyat will become stronger by the day. And to the Mursyidul Am, you are still my leader and I pledge my support for you and the party. I pray that you stay strong!

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